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Always Dad: Being a Great Father During & After Divorce, by Paul Mandelstein


Remain an integral part of your kids’ lives during and after divorce. More and more, divorced fathers are finding out that, rather than being one half of a “broken” home, they can continue to play a crucial role in their children’s lives. You can, too. Turn to Always Dad and discover how to work with your ex to create a fulfilling extended family, one that can help ensure that your kids grow up in an enriching, loving environment. Whether you’re in the initial stages of divorce, dealing with the immediate aftermath or well past one, this book will provide down-to-earth ideas and strategies you can use right now.

Paul Mandelstein understands what you’re experiencing. As a divorced father of three, he founded the Father Resource Network to help dads remain involved in their children’s lives. With Always Dad, he distills his many years of working with divorced fathers into one powerful volume.

Get back on track, develop fulfilling relationships, experience personal growth and — most importantly — be the father that your kid needs. Always Dad will help you at every step. Read More

John Gray, Ph.D and author of
Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict after a Difficult Divorce, by Elizabeth Thayer Ph.D. and Jeffrey Zimmerman

From Publishers Weekly

When couples have children, an acrimonious divorce can be painful for everyone involved. Couples can bear enormous resentment, anger and disappointment toward each other yet they still have to collaborate on one of the most complicated and difficult jobs in the world: child-rearing. Too often the intricacies of visitation, holiday plans and differences over discipline are left to lawyers, escalating the antagonism. Psychologists Elizabeth S. Thayer and Jeffrey Zimmerman argue that it doesn’t have to be that way, and in The Co-Parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict After a Difficult Divorce they help parents work harmoniously with their exes. Founders of Parents Allied to Co-Parent Effectively (PEACE), a service for high-conflict divorced or divorcing parents, the authors offer advice from conflict resolution to dealing with stepparents that could save parents thousands of dollars in legal fees and protect kids from needless misery and trauma.

Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information, Inc.

From Library Journal

These two works both focus on helping families adjust to divorce, but they have very different audiences. In The Co-Parenting Survival Guide, psychologists Thayer and Zimmerman, cofounders of the P.E.A.C.E. program (Parents Allied to Co-Parent Effectively), present straightforward advice to parents in high-conflict divorces. Their aim is to help ex-spouses reduce strife and concentrate on their children’s needs. After explaining the concept of conflict in early chapters, the authors go on to offer specific guidelines for defusing common confrontations, such as parenting plans, transitions, special events, and new relationships. Thayer and Zimmerman insist that even one parent acting alone can lessen conflict. References for further research are included.

On the other hand, Not Damaged Goods is written for children of divorce. Walther heads a divorce counseling firm and has written and lectured widely on divorce. Each of the eight chapters, arranged according to the age of the child from infancy through adulthood (age 30 and beyond), shares stories to help readers clarify their emotions, questions to answer and apply to their own lives, and exercises for building self-esteem. While the idea of providing stories and activities in a workbook-type format certainly has merit, the scope of Not Damaged Goods is so large that only a few pages apply to any age group and is therefore fairly superficial, recommending it for large collections only. As pointed out in Judith Wallerstein’s The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce and Stephanie Staal’s The Love They Lost (both LJ 9/15/00) divorce has long-lasting effects, and children in those situations require special attention. The Co-Parenting Survival Guide builds on those findings and is recommended for all libraries. Kay Brodie, Chesapeake Coll., Wye Mills, MD.

Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information, Inc.

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